Monday 31 August 2015

21 Ways You Can Know That What You’re Feeling Is Really True Love

Love is a pretty powerful drug. When you feel it, you really feel it. It can suspend time, making the whole world seem still except for you two.
It feeds you more than any nourishment; you feel full in the presence of love.
But there’s a vast difference between love and true love. True love knows no depth. It’s an endless tunnel that sweeps you up in the whirlwind and you’re never quite free from it. It stays with you. And you hope this person will too.
True love isn’t ordinary. It doesn’t come around often and that’s how you’ll know it’s genuine.
….Or, you know, you could read this list and find out for yourself. Here are the 21 signs you are truly in love with your partner:
1. You see something and instead of thinking how happy it makes you, you think about how happy it would make them.
2. You feel more at home with them than you’ve ever felt in your entire life. Even when you were 7 and had all the stuffed animals in the world.
3. You find yourself singing Macy Gray at various times throughout the day.
4. You can get all-out mad or depressed or happy or whatever it is that you are in front of them. And you know it won’t change how they feel about you.
5. Patience: It doesn’t matter how long it takes for them to understand something, you enjoy spending the time teaching or learning from them.
6. You have the option to wear your go-to outfit, but still take an extra five minutes to get ready.
7. You live for their quirks. You love that they take up the entire dance floor when they break a move. You love that you can’t share meals because they hate chicken. You love that they will discuss celebrities like they’re your real friends. You’d much rather have them be weird than anyone else.
8. You still go over to their place no matter how late at night it is and how tired you feel. It’s always worth it.
9. You don’t desire other people. Yes, you might find some of them attractive, but no part of you wants them.
10. Their happiness means more than your own.
11. You willingly give in to the things you normally don’t compromise on.
12. You never grow tired of their company. It’s always just better when they are there. Even if you two don’t fill the silence, you’re content simply knowing they are present.
13. You have moments of insecurity but their reassurance makes you realize it doesn’t matter. Only when they say things will be fine do you genuinely believe it.
14. You associate certain scents with them. Cut grass reminds you of the time after your morning run. Football leather brings you to autumn evenings spent playing catch in the leaves. And don’t get us started on the smell of their pillow….
15. You dream of all the ways you can take care of them more than you dream of all the ways you want them to take care of you.
16. You never don’t want to listen to them – even when they sing Motown absolutely terribly in the shower.
17. When you do fight — it’s part of loving someone — you truly don’t want to be mad at them. You don’t talk badly about them after it’s resolved either because you know their actions came from a good place.
18. As if it’s even possible, you find them to be even cuter when they are sleeping. (I promise this isn’t creepy…)
19. They can come at you with anything — news, secrets, maybe even a baseball bat — and you won’t judge or hate them for it.
20. You wake up happy if only because you get to see them that day.
21. Neither of you think about Channing Tatum during sex.

Who is a true christian


Display fff default image

Who Is a Christian?

The term “Christian” is found three times in the New Testament. It is employed initially in conjunction with the ministry of Barnabas and Saul in Antioch of Syria.
[T]he disciples were called Christians first in Antioch (Acts 11:26).
Later, when pressed with evidence for the validity of the Christian system, Herod Agrippa II said:
Almost you persuade me to be a Christian (26:28).
The King James Version suggests a man who is wrestling with his conscience. Others feel that the ruler’s remark is cynical: “Do you think that in such a short time you can persuade me to be a Christian?” (NIV). Perhaps the truth is somewhere between the two. The king’s comment may reflect a respectful evasion.
Finally, Peter writes:
[I]f any man suffer as a Christian, let him not be ashamed; but let him glorify God in this name (1 Peter 4:16).
Some—especially those who are enamored with humanly devised religious titles—contend that the name Christian was initially given in derision. Moffatt suggested that it was “coined by the pagan slang” of the citizens of Antioch (1906, 316), and countless others have echoed that sentiment, including some of the restoration heritage (Campbell 1914, 95).
We reject this assertion for the following reasons:
  1. The Old Testament spoke of a new and everlasting name to be bestowed upon the people of God in the gospel age (Isaiah 56:5,6; 62:2; 65:14,15). If this was not the name “Christian,” then what was the new name?
  2. Isaiah especially associated the reception of the new name with the call of the Gentiles (62:2); the name Christian was not given until the Gentiles were admitted into the church (cf. Acts 10; 11:26).
  3. The term chrematizo (translated “were called” – Acts 11:26) is employed nine times in the New Testament. It is, without exception, used in contexts wherein the calling is of God. Some suggest that the grammatical construction of this passage indicates that the name was bestowed by Barnabas and Saul—by divine authority (Woods 1976, 67).
  4. It is inconceivable that Peter would have encouraged the early saints to “glorify God” (1 Peter 4:16) by the use of a paganistically bestowed “slang” term. The early disciples did not adopt other pejorative titles (cf. Acts 24:5,14).
  5. Paul rebuked the Corinthian brothers for wearing human names, e.g., Paul, Apollos, and Cephas, because, he said, these men were not crucified for them, nor were they immersed into their names (1 Corinthians 1:12,13). Clearly, the implication is that since Christ was crucified for them, and as they had been baptized into his name, they had the right to wear His name. What would that have been if not “Christian?”
  6. There is another indication that the Christian name was divinely bestowed. James wrote concerning that “honorable name” which the Christians had “called upon” (passive voice form) them (2:7). “This expression clearly reveals its OT background (Deut. 28:10; 2 Chron. 7:14; Amos 9:12). A man was dedicated to God by calling God’s name over him. The act indicated that he belonged to God. So Christians bear the worthy name of Christ as indication that they are his people” (Burdick 1981, 179).
Granted, then, the term was divinely imposed, and thus is to be worn with honor and dignity. The issue now is: precisely who is a Christian?

How Not To Identify a Christian

Before addressing this theme positively, let us consider some false standards by which some are perceived as Christians.

An American

A few might reason thusly: America is a Christian nation; but I am a citizen of this nation; thus, I am a Christian. The major premise of the argument is false. America is not a Christian nation. No nation (except that spiritual nation, the church – Matthew 21:43; 1 Peter 2:9) is Christian. One is not a Christian by virtue of residence.

A Moralist

Others would suggest that if one lives by high moral principles, he or she is surely a Christian person. If one is a providing father, loving mother, or benevolent neighbor then the individual is perceived as a Christian.
But what of the Jew who attempts to live an ethical life? Is he a Christian? He certainly would repudiate the designation!
Or consider the case of Bertrand Russell. The British philosopher was once asked this question: “Can an agnostic be a Christian?” He replied:
If you mean by a “Christian” a man who loves his neighbor, who has wide sympathy with suffering, and who ardently desires a world freed from the cruelties and abominations which at present disfigure it, then, certainly, you will be justified in calling me a Christian (1975, 289).
Was Russell a Christian in any sense of the term? Far from it. He once gave a lecture, later printed and widely distributed, titled “Why I am not a Christian” (1967). One is not a Christian merely because he endorses certain moral principles that are taught in the Scriptures.

A Theist

Some would argue, perhaps, that one who merely believes in God is a Christian. Certainly all Christians believe in God, but not everyone who believes in God is a Christian. Jews believe in God, and so do Moslems, but neither are Christians—nor do they profess to be.
We must remember that belief in God, without a corresponding faith in Christ, is worthless. Jesus declared:
[He] that rejects me, rejects him that sent me (Luke 10:16).
The Lord was unyielding in His declaration:
I am the way, and the truth, and the life: no one comes unto the Father, but by me (John 14:6).

A “Faith Only” Believer in Christ

There is a vast body of people that endorses the concept that anyone who believes in Christ (i.e., he subscribes to the truth that Jesus is the Son of God) is a Christian person. That simply is not the case. Note this principle. During the personal ministry of Jesus, there were Jews who observed his miracles and who believed the message he proclaimed; yet, they were still identified as children of Satan.
Consider the case detailed in John 8. The record indicates that as the Lord taught, “many believed on him” (8:30). Christ thus spoke to those who “had believed him” (8:31). As the dialog became heated, Jesus charged:
You are of your father the devil, and the lusts of your father it is your will to do (8:44).
They were believers in a sense, yet still unregenerate.
Or reflect further upon the episode of chapter twelve.
Nevertheless even of the rulers many believed on him; but because of the Pharisees they did not confess it, lest they should be put out of the synagogue: for they loved the glory that is of men more than the glory that is of God (12:42-43).
Will anyone be so reckless as to contend that these “believers” were right with God? It takes more than mere mental belief in the Lord to bring about one’s salvation.

A Church Member

Some feel that so long as one is a member of some church he or she must be a Christian. What of those who are members of the Unitarian Universalist Church? These folks do not even believe that Jesus Christ is the Son of God. Are they Christians simply because they are members in a “church”?
Hundreds of churches populate our land of which God is not the author. All Christians are in the church of Jesus Christ, but not all “church members” are Christians.

Baptized People

Many doubtless believe that anyone who has submitted to a form of “Christian baptism” is obviously a Christian. The problem with that is this. Not every person who has surrendered to “baptism” has yielded to the genuine rite, as the ordinance is set forth in the New Testament.
For example, some have had water sprinkled upon them, believing this was baptism, when, in fact, sprinkling (or pouring) is not baptism at all. Baptism is an immersion in water (Balz and Schneider 1990, 192ff), and nothing short of that is in harmony with the will of God.
Aside from that, it is possible to be immersed and still not be a Christian, provided the teaching received prior to the act was either incomplete or inaccurate. The case in Acts 19 demonstrates this. When Paul arrived in Ephesus he encountered twelve men who had been immersed with the baptism that had been operative during the ministry of John the Baptizer. Obviously, however, they had submitted to John’s baptism after it had already become obsolete. Thus, even though the form (i.e., immersion) was correct, their understanding of other matters was deficient.
These men were thus not Christians. However, they became such when they were baptized into the name of the Lord Jesus (19:5; cf. 2:38; 22:16).
It is imperative that one have accurate teaching and a proper comprehension (e.g., the purpose of the ordinance) before submitting to baptism, if he expects to be recognized by God as a Christian.

Becoming a Christian

How does one become a Christian? The answer to this important question is not dependent upon idle speculation. Clear and compelling biblical evidence reveals the truth of this matter.
Consider Matthew’s record of the Great Commission.
Go ye therefore, and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them into the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit; teaching them to observe all things whatsoever I commanded you: and lo, I am with you always, even unto the end of the world (28:19,20).
The verb matheteusate (“make disciples”) is in the imperative mood (a command), and is followed by a participle (“baptizing”) which sets forth “the manner in which the given action was performed” (Green 1907, 332). Thus a person is made a “disciple” (in this specialized use of the term) by being immersed into a relationship with the sacred Trinity.
Later disciples become known as “Christians” (Acts 11:26). Thus one becomes a disciple (in a technical sense) or a Christian when he is immersed into Christ.
Those who refuse immersion, as that ordinance is precisely described in the New Testament, are simply not Christians— no matter how sincere they may be. An emotional inclination toward the Son of God is no substitute for genuine obedience.
Paul made it clear that wearing the name of Christ (i.e., being a Christian) was dependent upon accepting the fact that the Lord was crucified on one’s behalf, and being immersed into his name (1 Corinthians 1:13). Anyone who neglects either of these components cannot be recognized as a Christian.
An analysis of 1 Peter 4:16,17 further clarifies this issue. We reproduce the passage as follows, emphasizing certain key expressions.
But if any man suffer as a Christian, let him not be ashamed; but let him glorify God in this name. For the time is come for judgment to begin at the house of God: and if it begin first at us, what shall be the end of them that obey not the gospel of God?
There are several equivalent terms as the foregoing emphases reveal. To be a Christian is the same as being in the house of God. But the house of God is the church (1 Timothy 3:15). Thus, it is clear that Christians are in the church.
But membership in the church is the same as membership in the body (Colossians 1:18,24). Therefore, Christians are those who are in the body of Christ. However, one is baptized into the body (1 Corinthians 12:13).
We are thus driven to the conclusion that only those who have been biblically immersed are Christians. Note also, as suggested above, that the Christian is set in vivid contrast to those who have not obeyed the gospel.
The foregoing considerations make it apparent that there are strict scriptural conditions for becoming a Christian. The loose way in which the term “Christian” is employed today is not at all consistent with the biblical use of this sacred designation.

Wearing the Name with Fidelity

Is it possible that a child of God can so live as to become unworthy of wearing the name of Christ? Can he reach a state where the appellation “Christian” really does not even apply any more? There is an indication that this is possible.
The word “Christian,” as it appears in the Greek New Testament, is Christianos. The suffix ianos is not uncommon in the literature of the first century. It basically means “belonging to.” It was attached to certain words to denote one who was a slave of, or adherent of, a person or movement (Free and Vos 1992, 264). Thus a Kaisarianos was a slave who belonged to Caesar. A Herodian was a devotee of the Herod dynasty (cf. Matthew 22:16). There was a first-century sect known as the Augustiani. The para-military supporters of this movement adored Nero and followed him everywhere (Turner 1981, 66). Thus, by way of literary analogy, “Christian” might suggest a devotee of Jesus who was willing to follow his Master anywhere.
In discussing the term chrematizo (“were called” – Acts 11:26), W.E. Vine said that the primary significance of the term denoted having business dealings with someone. He suggested that the Christians were so named because serving Christ was their “chief business” (1940, 165).
The question is: do we really make it our business to serve the Lord faithfully each day?
Kistemaker raises an interesting point.
The name Christian means that you completely identify with Christ because you are his disciple. But for many Christians this identification seems to apply only in a Sunday worship service. During the week many Christians appear to have put aside the Christian nametag that they display on Sundays. . . . How do some Christians live? Some live for the sake of money; others are in the process of destroying their bodies through chemical dependence; and still others use vile and profane language as a part of their daily speech. “Why are you a Christian?” is personal and to the point. It makes many Christians blush (1990, 423,424).
There is another question that we should briefly raise. Since it is possible for a child of God to fall from the faith (2 Thessalonians 2:3; 1 Timothy 4:1), drift into error, and so be worthy of disfellowship (Romans 16:17; 2 Thessalonians 3:6; Titus 3:10), when such occurs, is it appropriate to continue referring to such people as “Christians”?
I simply do not understand the rationale which argues that there are “Christians” in “practically all the denominations known today,” as many contend. When one ceases to embrace the teaching of Jesus Christ, he is no longer worthy of the Lord’s name.
Every Christian should resolve that he will not wear the name of Christ in a vain or degrading way. May we indeed glorify God in this name (1 Peter 4:16).

If Your Partner Doesn’t Make You Feel These 11 Ways, It Isn’t True Love

The world keeps getting smaller and our options only increase year by year.
Finding someone is easy. Finding THE one isn’t.
I always recommend leaving your emotions and feelings out of any decisions you make, however, this rule doesn’t apply to love. When it comes to love, feelings are often all we really have to go by.
No matter how great someone may be on paper, unless he or she makes us feel a certain way, we won’t believe ourselves to be in love.
Of course, there is much more to love than the feelings we experience, but our emotions are usually good reference points — if we understand how to interpret them.
The truth is the person you want to end up with is the person who makes you feel a certain way. But how exactly?

1. This person should make you happy.

The most obvious of feelings sought after in a relationship, yet it is one that is often overlooked.
We all go into a relationship looking for happiness — and when things are going well, we find it, however, more often than not, things end up going south.
Sometimes the person who once made us happier than anyone else causes us nothing but pain.
Or just more pain than ought to be caused by someone who supposedly loves you.
It’s hard to navigate your way out of such a situation. It’s not something anyone can help you with; you must make the decision of your own accord.
Just keep in mind our lives are short.
If our days are filled with more despair than happiness, then how can we say we’re living life right?

2. This person should make you excited about life.

This person elevates your overall mood and makes you look forward to things that never excited you before. You begin to see the world as a more pleasant, fairer place.
If the person you are with can’t get you excited, then you’re with the wrong person.
You should be excited to see him or her, excited to spend time with him or her, excited to wake up in the morning and go through your day because you’re going through your day knowing you have him or her to come home to.
If the person you are with doesn’t make it at least a smidgen easier to get out of bed in the morning, then you haven’t found the one.

3. This person should make you feel at peace with yourself.

It’s important to find the right person to share your life with because having the right person makes you the right person.
It’s not that this person changes you — even though he or she often does – this person makes you appreciate the person you are.
If you weren’t the person you are, then you probably would have never found each other — you have no choice but to be at peace with yourself and the life you’ve created for yourself.

4. This person should make you feel secure.

The feeling of security is arguably the most crucial in a relationship. Our lives are filled with uncertainty; that’s the way it has always been.
In fact, evolution itself favored those who were the quickest to adapt to this uncertainty, to the inevitable and unknowable changes that occur every minute of every day.
Nothing in life is secure because in the end, we lose all of it. But we’re not talking about the tangible world. We’re talking about feelings.
The only partner who’s a keeper is one who makes you feel secure in the belief that he or she will never abandon you.

5. This person should give you hope.

He or she gives you the hope that your life will be a pleasant one. This person gives you the hope that you won’t end up alone.
Your partner should give you the hope that you can create for yourself the life you always dreamed of.
But more than that, this person gives you hope in humanity. When you find someone you believe to be an incredible human being, you begin to have the hope that the world isn’t as dark and brutal a world as you’ve believed it to be. It gives the you hope that the world can be a world filled with love.

6. This person should give you courage.

Your partner should give you the courage to take risks you otherwise wouldn’t have never taken.
This person gives you the courage to do things you never had the guts to do before. He or she makes you believe in you.
No matter how big your ego, no matter how intelligent you are, how courageous you already are, how ambitious and crafty you are, there will always come a time when you’re faced with making a choice or doing something you just don’t have it in you to do alone.
That’s why we find partners in life; they give us the strength we need to do that which we thought ourselves incapable of doing.

7. This person should spark your curiosity.

The world is a fascinating place — catalysts for curiosity abound. Yet so many of us manage to get bored. We manage to lose interest.
We throw ourselves into these routines that have no ending in sight, just an ever-spinning mouse wheel of monotony.
It’s this seemingly stagnant lifestyle that bores us, that makes us lose one of consciousness’ most precious gifts: curiosity.
When you meet the one, you’ll know he or she is the one because this person will spark that curiosity in you. You will be so fascinated by him or her that you’ll feel as if you’ve been slung back in time.
In other words, this person makes you feel like a kid again.

8. This person should make you feel comfortable in your own skin.

Not everyone loves his or herself — for some, it’s much more difficult than it is for others.
Regardless of whether or not you love the person you are, having someone who loves you gives you a little extra reassurance.
The right person will make you feel proud to be you even when it’s difficult to be proud.
Sometimes we doubt ourselves. Sometimes we make mistakes that take a significant toll.
Sometimes the world and all the inconsiderate pricks running around it make us feel like garbage.
When you find the one, everyone else stops mattering. As far as you’re concerned, it’s just the two of you.

9. This person should make you feel lucky.

Luck is a funny thing… although we don’t feel like we need it, we love it when we feel lucky.
It makes us feel like there is some force outside of us, guiding us and making our lives just a little bit easier, destined even.
The one you choose to spend your life with is the one you consider to be your winning lottery ticket.
If you don’t feel like you are one of the luckiest individuals in the world for having the one you love stumble into your life, then you probably aren’t that lucky. And that is cause for worry.

10. This person should make you feel worried.

Not on purpose — you have to be careful with this. The person who tells you he or she loves you should not be the same person who makes you worry pointlessly.
There are more than enough reasons to worry as is — you don’t need someone only adding more stress.
When we love someone, truly love someone, we worry about him or her. When this person’s phone dies, we worry.
When this person’s flight gets delayed, we worry. When this person put his or herself in any potential danger — no matter how unlikely — we worry.
Maybe not a lot… but the worst-case scenarios often come to mind.

11. This person should sometimes make you feel sad.

Not often and never on purpose, but the right person for you will inevitably make you sad. No one can all meet all of his or her own expectations, let alone the expectations of others.
We make mistakes. We have moments of weakness. We make poor decisions.
Perfect people don’t exist, but the person you should be with is the person who will do everything in his or her power to make sure you stay smiling.
This person wants to fill your life with as much joy as possible because he or she knows one day the two of you will lose each other.
This thought alone makes the both of you incredibly sad. And that’s a good thing.

What is true love and how do you know when you have found it?

See this page in: Dutch, Hungarian, Swedish
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” —I Corinthians 13:4-8a (NIV)
Copyrighted © Subbotina This verse describes the characteristics of true love. These qualities can certainly be found in the person of Jesus Christ, and they can be found in all truly loving relationships. The problem with trying to “find” love in our dating lives, is that too often we don't look for these characteristics. Rather we look at physical appearance, popularity, or wealth. These are not the qualities that God looks at and neither should we.
But the LORD said to Samuel, “…The LORD does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.”
I Samuel 16:7b (NIV)
Love is best seen as devotion and action, not an emotion. Love is not exclusively based on how we feel. Certainly our emotions are involved, but they cannot be our only criteria for love. True devotion will always lead to action—true love.
Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with ACTIONS and in truth.
      I John 3:18 (NIV)
Christ was devoted to us enough to give his own life for us (Romans 5:8), even when he didn't feel like it (Matthew 26:39).
Sex is not love! Our culture has taught us that sex and love are one in the same. This is a lie. Sex is a beautiful God-given activity that is wonderful when practiced within the boundaries of a Biblical marriage. Sex is the completion of the binding of two people within Biblical marriage; it is a God-given gift.

Pre-marital sex

Because premarital sex is not love, it only leads to pain and disappointment for those who are seeking that love. The Bible says that when two people are married, they become one flesh (Ephesians 5:31). Sex is consummation of that union. When two people break off their relationship after having sex, it is like ripping apart flesh. This is why two teenagers will struggle so much and become so dependent on those they give their bodies to. In light of I Corinthians 13:4-8 (above), it is easy to see that premarital sex is not patient, it is not kind, it does not protect, it is self-seeking. It is not love!
Couple. Illustration copyrighted. Used by permission from Bill Zeeb.

Identifying true love

We can only identify true love and know when we have found it, based on the Word of God. When we match our relationships up to what the Bible says that love is—and we are honestly prepared to make a life-long commitment to that person—then we can say that we are truly “in love.” The three keys to that statement are:
We have to…
  1. …look at the Word of God
  2. …be completely honest with ourselves
  3. …understand the level of commitment that comes with true love

How to create a strong bond with the one you love


“Love is patient; love is kind
 and envies no one.  Love is never boastful, nor conceited, nor rude;  never selfish, not quick to take offense.
 There is nothing love cannot face;
 there is no limit to its faith, 
its hope, and endurance.  In a word, there are three things 
that last forever: faith, hope, and love,
 but the greatest of them all is love.”
The Bible
 
I'm fortunate to have some pretty amazing love in my life and it's something I don't, for a second, take for granted. Not everyone is as lucky as I have been when it comes to love and I truly value the time and energy spent on developing a truly loving relationship. Sadly, when it comes to love, there can be a lot of negativity in there. A few weeks ago at my sister's wedding, I heard that famous Letter to the Corinthians, which I've quoted above. Though I've heard it many times, at many weddings (and, of course, in Wedding Crashers), it struck a particular chord with me recently when I realized how much truth resides in those words. 
In order to create a loving and lasting relationship, one must adhere to those principles and focus on them with every passing moment a relationship experiences. As anyone who has been a relationship knows, they aren't all sunshine and rainbows, smiles and happiness. They are hard work sometimes, but I've found that you usually get just about as much as you put into them. If you want to have a strong bond with the one you love, you have to create that bond. And, once you've created it, you have to work on strengthening it all the time. How can you strengthen the bond with the one you love? Here are my suggestions:


  1. Be patient and kind. For whatever reason, people often take out their worst emotions on the ones they love, but one of the best (and most obvious) ways to strengthen a bond with a loved one is to be patient and kind with that person. It can be hard, at times, to remember patience and kindness, but those two elements are essential when it comes to maintaining a close bond with a loved one.
  2. Avoid extreme selfishness. I'm all for the importance of putting yourself first, but, when it comes to making a true and lasting bond with the one you love stick, it's important to avoid extreme selfishness at all costs. Forming a bond has to be a give and take. You must be willing to put others' needs before your own at times if you want to create a bond that will last a lifetime.

  3. Do not be rude or boastful. Again, going back to the first point, for some reason people tend to often be rudest to those they love the most. Maybe people think they can get away with it, but, even if you can, rudeness is a surefire way to put stop to forming a close bond with someone you love. If you want to be close, avoid boasting or treating a loved one rudely.
  4. Be supportive and avoid envy. There will be times in a loving relationship where one person is more successful or happy than the other. This is normal and this is okay. What's not okay is to be envious of your partner. To create a strong and lasting bond, you must be supportive of the one you love and avoid, at all costs, letting envy take over your emotions.
  5. Fill your heart with trust. Many of the biggest issues in many relationships stem from a lack of trust. With all of the various elements life can throw at us, it's not surprising that so many people have issues when it comes to trust. However, if you want to have the best possible bond with the one you love, you must let go of mistrust and open your heart to full and complete trust of one another.  
  6. Believe in the power of love. It might sound completely cheesy, but there's a lot of power behind love between two people. It can overcome a great deal -- probably much more than you'd imagine. Love will overcome any negativity -- if you believe in it. To create a strong bond, you have to believe in the love you share and you have to know that, with it, you can deal with all kinds of difficult situations.
  7. Celebrate the love you share. Once you've formed a bond with someone, it can be easy to take that love for granted. Don't. Make time to celebrate the love you have in your life and you'll surely continue to increase the bond you share with the one you love. No matter how long it's been since that bond was first created, don't neglect your love. Take time to celebrate it every single day. 

I'm really good at doing some of these and, when it comes to others, I could use a little more work and effort on my part. Overall, I know if I focus on cultivating appreciation, gratitude, and respect in my relationship that those things will ultimately lead to a lasting and worthwhile love. So often people find themselves swept up by romance at the beginning of a relationship only to let things fizzle and fade once they grow more comfortable with one another. Often people take it one step further and grow to dislike one another, becoming angry and jealous for little or no reason. It is unfortunate that so many great loves end up turning sour, leaving one or both partners disappointed and unhappy. Many people believe that the initial spark they once felt for another will magically return, but that's not realistic. Real love takes real work and all of the effort one puts into celebrating and working on love is worth it to know that a bond can become unbreakable.

10 Ways to Get Your Marriage Back on Track and Save Back Your Relationship

First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes happily ever after. End of story, right? Not quite… While it's true that couples relax a bit after they think they've nabbed the matrimonial Holy Grail, the reality is that they may also find themselves dumbfounded if their fairytale starts slipping away. "Many people think that marriage is about marrying the right person, so when things go wrong, they automatically go to the 'Crap, I accidentally married the wrong person' place," says Alisa Bowman, author of Project: Happily Ever After. "Although you do want to marry someone you are basically compatible with, marriage has a lot less to do with marrying the right person than it has to do with doing the right things with the person you married." In other words, relationships are a constant work in progress. To keep the happy connection that made you say "I do" in the first place—or maybe even create a newer-and-improved version—try out these 10 tips to rehab your romance.
More From Woman's Day
My Husband and I Are Incompatible in a Big Way, Bu…
If You're Not Talking About These 10 Things, You M…
The Secret to Marital Bliss Can Be Found in These …
10 Surprising Things Women Miss About Being Single
1. Nurture yourself.
Marriage is about giving, but don't make the mistake of giving too much. "To have a good marriage, you need to be a good you," says Bowman. "Learn how to prioritize and put boundaries around activities that keep you healthy and whole—activities like rest, relaxation, fitness and time with friends." In other words, remember that scheduling "me" time into your day is not selfish, it's a necessity. It will strengthen your relationship because you'll have a saner version of "you" to bring to the "us" equation.
2. Define your problems.
Spend some time looking at your relationship and figure out which parts work and which parts don't. Bowman suggests that you take a moment to imagine a perfect day in your perfect relationship. What would this look like? How would you and your partner interact? Then create a plan of how you might get from point A (your current reality) to point B (that perfect day). Write it down if you need to, then start breaking the issues into bite-size pieces and tackling them one at a time. Before you know it, there will only be a few bite-size problems left.
3. Make a financial plan together.
Money is one of the biggest stressors in a marriage. Couples worry and argue about it constantly. If you find you and your spouse are starting to badger each other over the bottom line, it's time to have a penny-pinching powwow. "We are all guilty of something economists call 'passive decision-making,' which just means defaulting to the easy option," says Jenny Anderson, coauthor of Spousonomics: Using Economics to Master Love, Marriage, and Dirty Dishes. "Couples need to make an active plan about how they will manage their money: Combine it? Separate it? Create a joint account and keep some separate? Whatever the decision, both people have to be part of the decision to do it and then figure out what needs to be done to keep the system humming."
4. Use the three-sentence rule.
When you need to ask your partner for something that could be misconstrued as nagging, keep the request at three sentences—max. "The art of being assertive without coming off as aggressive lies in being succinct and using a warm tone of voice and body language," says Bowman. "When you keep your requests to three sentences or fewer, it's almost impossible to blame, use sarcasm or use put-downs." It's also a lot more likely that you'll get your point across without losing your spouse's attention. Make your request with a smile. Be sincere and encouraging. You might even rest your hand on his thigh as you say, "Honey, the house is a mess and I am exhausted. Could you help me clean this place up? I could really use your help."
5. Take your fighting gloves off.
Don't duke it out. Instead, consider taking a time-out. "There's a concept called 'loss aversion' in economics, which simply means we really hate to lose. And when we think we are losing, we fight like there is no tomorrow to try to win," says Anderson. "It happens when couples talk about hot-button issues like sex, housework, money or the kids. If either person thinks he or she is losing, he or she will ratchet up the stakes and escalate the issue." The next time you see a spousal spat going to a not-so-happy place, take a break and revisit the subject when neither one of you feels overwhelmed by the topic.
6. Just do it.
Yes, by "do it" we mean have sex. Intimacy is an important part of a vital relationship, and one of the first areas to suffer if feelings are floundering. But sexual encounters can also be one of the quickest ways to reconnect and rekindle with your partner. "Of the many forms of couple intimacy—a smile across a room, a kiss, a touch—sex has the potential to be the most powerful positive physical experience most of us enjoy," says Joel D. Block, PhD, coauthor of Sex Comes First: 15 Ways to Save Your Relationship…Without Leaving Your Bedroom. "This is especially true if sex results in emotional fulfillment, better communication, security and reassurance."
7. Burn your grudges.
It's time to set some bad memories on fire. Literally. Sometimes hanging on to those "Do you remember the time you did such and such?" moments are the things that lead to relationship sabotage. Instead of carrying grudges around forever, torch them. "Write them all down on a piece of paper. Then set a timer for a certain amount of time. It might be 10 minutes. It might be 30. It might be the whole day. The point is: Give yourself as long as you need to really wallow in the misery of these grudges. Savor them. Get angry about them. Mutter about them. Do whatever you need to do to get sick and tired of them," says Bowman. "Once you are done, say, 'I will not think about these anymore. These grudges have lost their usefulness.'" Then take a match and burn them.
8. Don't be overly confident.
Overconfidence can lead to complacency, which is not good for any relationship. According to Anderson, in a survey published in August 1993 in the journal Law and Human Behavior, couples who had recently applied for a marriage license were asked to estimate the average rate of divorce. Almost uniformly, they accurately predicted about 50 percent. Then they were asked to estimate the chances that they would get divorced. They answered zero percent. The problem with this statistic is that, if there is no perceived risk of failure, no "work" is put into maintaining the relationship—until it's suddenly faltering. Don't let yourself gloss over the little things. Don't forget to make an effort to keep your romance alive. Don't find yourself in a situation where you realize that you could have done more…when it's already too late.
9. Write your spouse's eulogy.
This one isn't as macabre as it sounds. It's more of an exercise in appreciation. Bowman suggests that you work on it a little at a time as a way to notice what your spouse does right (since these are the things you'd likely eulogize him with, not the negatives). "Think back over the years you've known this man. When did he make you laugh? When did he make you cry tears of joy? When did he surprise you? When did he feed the cat because the smell of cat food makes you want to hurl? Put it in the eulogy," says Bowman. "The funeral fantasy will help you remember to appreciate your spouse."
10. Remind yourself you have a choice to stay married.
Many people stay in troubled marriages because they believe they have no other choice. "They think that they are stuck, and they blame this sensation of being stuck on their spouse. But if you are stuck, it's your fault and not your spouse's," says Bowman. That fact is, "you are not stuck; you have choices. Three of them: Do nothing and remain miserable; face your fears and try to save your marriage; ask for a divorce." Choose to either be married or not. Make a choice. And wake up every morning and make that choice again. The surest path to happiness is knowing that you are not a helpless damsel in distress, but rather a woman who can make her own decisions. You have the choice to live happily ever after.

10 Ways to Have Peaceful, Loving Relationships

BY Kobina Mensah

Love
“Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them, humanity cannot survive.” ~Dalai Lama
Though Valentine’s Day is coming up next month, this is not a post about romance. It’s about any relationship—with your brother, your mother, your coworker, or your friend.
And I admit I am not an expert.
I’ve made a million and one mistakes in relationships. I’ve expected too much. Or not asked for what I needed in fear of rocking the boat. I’ve been competitive. I’ve been suspicious. I’ve been dependent. I’d like to think what redeems me from all these mistakes is that I’ve also been honest.
Being self aware, in my opinion, is far more valuable than being perfect—mostly because the former is attainable and helpful, while the latter is neither.
Relationships are not easy. They mirror everything we feel about ourselves. When you’ve had a bad day, the people around you seem difficult. When you’re not happy with yourself, your relationships seem to be lacking.
If you’ve ever gotten in a fight only to find yourself wondering what you were really upset about, this post may help you. If you’ve ever been disappointed because someone didn’t meet your expectations, this post may help you, too. Feel walked on and unheard? You guessed it—there’s likely something in here that will help you change that.
We don’t live in a vacuum. We have thoughts and feelings that can be confusing. Other people do too. And just like in the movie Crash, they don’t always collide smoothly.
When I apply these ideas, I feel confident, strong, compassionate, and peaceful in my interactions. I hope they can do the same for you.

1. Do what you need to do for you.

Everyone has personal needs, whether it’s going to the gym after work or taking some alone time on Saturday morning. If someone asks you to do something and your instinct is to honor you own need, do that. I’m not saying you can’t make sacrifices sometimes, but it’s important to make a habit of taking care of yourself
Someone once told me people are like glasses of water. If we don’t do what we have to do to keep our glass full, we’ll need to take it from someone else—which leaves them half full. Fill your own glass so you can feel whole and complete in your relationships.

2. Give people the benefit of the doubt.

It’s tempting to doubt people—to assume your boyfriend meant to hurt you by not inviting you out with his friends, or your friend meant to make you feel inadequate by flaunting her money. People who care about you want you to feel happy, even if sometimes they get too wrapped up in their own problems to show it well.
Sometimes they may be hurtful and mean it—let’s not pretend we’re all angels. But that won’t be the norm. It will likely be when they’re hurting and don’t know what to do with it. Odds are they’ll feel bad and apologize later. If you want to get good will, share it by seeing the best in the people you love. When we assume the best, we often inspire it.

3. Look at yourself for the problem first.

When you feel unhappy with yourself, it’s easy to find something wrong in a relationship. If you blame another person for what you’re feeling, the solution is on them. But this is actually faulty logic. For starters, it gives them all the control. And secondly, it usually doesn’t solve the problem, since you didn’t actually address the root cause.
Next time you feel the need to blame someone for your feelings—something they did or should have done—ask yourself if there’s something else going on. You may find there’s something underlying: something you did or should have done for you. Take responsibility for the problem and you have power to create a solution.

4. Be mindful of projecting.

In psychology, projecting refers to denying your own traits and then ascribing them to the outside world or other people. For example, if you’re not a loyal and trusting friend, you may assume your friends are all out to get you. It’s a defense mechanism that allows you to avoid the discomfort of acknowledging your weaknesses. There’s no faster way to put a rift in your relationships.
This comes back to down to self awareness, and it’s hard work. Acknowledging your flaws isn’t fun, but if you don’t, you’ll continue seeing them in everyone around you. And you’ll continue to hurt. Next time you see something negative in someone else, ask yourself if it’s true for you. It might not be, but if it is, identifying it can help create peace in that relationship.

5. Choose your battles.

Everyone knows someone who makes everything a fight. If you question them about something, you can expect an argument. If you comment on something they did, you’ll probably get yelled at. Even a compliment could create a confrontation. Some people just like to fight—maybe to channel negativity they’re carrying around about the world or themselves.
On the one hand, you have to tell people when there’s something bothering you. That’s the only way to address problems. On the other hand, you don’t have to let everything bother you. When I’m not sure if I need to bring something up, I ask myself these few questions:
  • Does this happen often and leave me feeling bad?
  • Does this really matter in the grand scheme of things?
  • Can I empathize with their feelings instead of dwelling on my insecurity?

6. Confront compassionately and clearly.

When you attack someone, their natural instinct is to get defensive, which gets you nowhere. You end up having a loud conversation where two people do their best to prove they’re right and the other one is wrong. It’s rarely that black and white. It’s more likely you both have points, but you’re both too stubborn to meet in the middle.
If you approach someone with compassion, you will open their hearts and minds. Show them you understand where they’re coming from, and they’ll be willing to see your side. That gives you a chance to express yourself and your expectations clearly. And when you let people know what you need at the right time in the right way, they’re more likely to give that to you.

7. Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable.

There are all kinds of ways you can feel vulnerable in relationships: When you express your feelings for someone else. When you’re honest about yourself or your past. When you admit you made a mistake. We don’t always do these things because we want to maintain a sense of power.
Power allows us a superficial sense of control, whereas true, vulnerable being allows us a sense of authenticity. That’s love: being your true self and allowing someone else to do the same without letting fear and judgment tear it down. It’s like Jimi Hendrix said, “When the power of love overcomes the love of power the world will know peace.”

8. Think before acting on emotion.

This one is the hardest for me. As soon as I feel hurt, frustrated, or angry, I want to do something with it—which is always a bad idea. I’ve realized my initial emotional reaction does not always reflect how I really feel about something. Initially, I might feel scared or angry, but once I calm down and think things through, I often realize I overreacted.
When you feel a strong emotion, try to sit it for a while. Don’t use it or run from it—just feel it. When you learn to observe your feelings before acting on them, you minimize the negativity you create in two ways: you process, analyze, and deal with feelings before putting them on someone else; and you communicate in a way that inspires them to stay open instead of shutting down.

9. Maintain boundaries.

When people get close, boundaries can get fuzzy. In a relationship without boundaries, you let the other person manipulate you into doing things you don’t want to do. You act out of guilt instead of honoring your needs. You let someone offend you without telling them how you feel about it. The best way to ensure people treat you how you want to be treated is to teach them.
That means you have to love and respect yourself enough to do that: to acknowledge what you need, and speak up. The only way to truly have loving, peaceful relationships is to start with a loving, peaceful relationship with yourself.

10. Enjoy their company more than their approval.

When you desperately need someone’s approval, your relationship becomes all about what they do for you—how often they stroke your ego, how well they bring you up when you feel down, how well they mitigate your negative feelings. This is draining for another person, and it creates an unbalanced relationship.
If you notice yourself dwelling on pleasing someone else or getting their approval, realize you’re creating that need. (Unless you’re in an abusive relationship, in which case I highly recommend getting help.) Instead of focusing on what you can get from that person, focus on enjoying yourselves together. Oftentimes the best thing you can do for yourself and someone else is let go and give yourself permission to smile.

Wes Craven, US horror filmmaker, dies aged 76


Wes Craven in 2011

American horror film director Wes Craven, creator of the Nightmare on Elm Street franchise, has died aged 76.
US media reported that Craven died at his Los Angeles home on Sunday from brain cancer.
Craven wrote and directed A Nightmare on Elm Street in 1984. His Scream franchise was reported to have grossed more than $100m (£65m) in the US.
He wrote, directed and edited his first film, The Last House on the Left, in 1972.
A tweet from his Twitter account featured a picture of him with the dates 1939-2015.
Craven was credited with reinventing the teen horror genre when the first film featuring Freddy Krueger was released in 1984 starring a then-unknown Johnny Depp.
He had more recently signed deals to develop television programmes, including the new Scream series for MTV. He had also been working on a graphic horror novel series.

Neve Campbell in Wes Craven's Scream 3
Robert Englund as Freddy Krueger of A Nightmare on Elm Street in 1989
Reflecting on his career, he once said in an interview: "I tried to make movies where I can honestly say I haven't seen that before and to follow my deepest intuitions and in some cases literally my dreams."
Actors posted tributes on social media including actress Courtney Cox, who starred in Craven's 1996 Scream and appeared in the franchise's three subsequent films.
She said: "Today the world lost a great man, my friend and mentor, Wes Craven. My heart goes out to his family. x"
Rose McGowan, who also featured in the original Scream, said: "Thank you for being the kindest man, the gentlest man, and one of the smartest men I've known. Please say there's a plot t

'Pregnant' with drugs, woman lands in Hyderabad

'Pregnant' with drugs, woman lands in Hyderabad
Narcotics Control Bureau (NCB) sleuths became suspicious after looking at her passport and travel pattern over the last one week. On subjecting her to medical examination, they discovered that she had swallowed the banned drugs which were packed in small polymer packets.

The woman, Mosiea Moosa, a South African national (passport number P-A04856058), was rushed to Osmania Hospital by the NCB sleuths to get the packets of drugs out of her body.


The NCB sleuths intercepted Mosiea at the RGI Airport after she arrived from Dubai by Emirates flight EK-526 on Sunday morning. "When we intercepted her, Mosiea said she was walking with difficulty as she was seven-month pregnant. When we shifted her to a corporate hospital at the airport for preliminary examination, she admitted that she was carrying narcotics in her stomach," a NCB officer said.

READ ALSO: Gold smugglers find new way to walk past customs

The NCB sleuths then rushed her to Osmania Hospital to recover the narcotic material. By giving laxatives, the hospital staff managed to extract 16 pouches of narcotics substance (till reports came in). The NCB officials confirmed that no surgery was performed on the woman and she was under medical supervision.



"We have not yet conducted checks on the narcotics recovered from the culprit. However, by looking at her travel pattern and the narcotics market, we suspect that the substance could be cocaine from Brazil," a NCB official said.

According to the NCB, Mosiea landed in Dubai from Johannesburg on August 23. The next day, she took a flight to Sao Paulo City (Guarulhos International Airport) in Brazil. On August 28, she returned to Dubai from Sao Paulo. On Sunday, she reached Hyderabad from Dubai.

READ ALSO: Cash smugglers tweak methods

"As a major portion of cocaine consumed the world over is manufactured in Brazil, we believe that she was carrying the contraband. Her return journey to Johannesburg has been booked from Hyderabad via Dubai on September 10," the NCB source said.

The NCB sleuths believe that Mosiea brought the banned substance from Sao Paulo, and after a break in Dubai for two days, she landed up in Hyderabad. "She is returning to Johannesburg only after a gap of 10 days. So, the receiver could be somewhere close to Hyderabad, but the final receiver of the product could be anywhere," the NCB official supervising the operation said.

READ ALSO: Two smugglers conceal gold in shoe cushions, nabbed at RGIA

He added that the market value of the seized drug could only be ascertained after recovering the entire material from the smuggler and testing it for purity.

Two police officers killed, 15 injured in road crash - See more at: http://www.myjoyonline.com/news/2015/August-31st/two-police-officers-killed-15-injured-in-road-crash.php#sthash.GRlu6o8O.dpuf

Two police officers killed, 15 injured in road crash

Source: Ghana | GNA
Date: 31-08-2015 Time: 05:08:52:am
Two Police officers are reported dead after the vehicle on which they were travelling on got involved in an accident near Winneba Junction on Saturday.
One died on the spot whiles the other died on arrival at the Winneba Municipal Government Hospital.
The Winneba Municipal Police Commander of the Motto Traffic and Transport Department of the Ghana Police Service, assistant Superintendent of Police (ASP) John Paul Akonde confirmed this to the Ghana News Agency in a telephone interview on Sunday.
The identities of the dead are yet to be given, but they include the driver and a female police officer, whilst a total of fifteen Police Officers also got injured.
According ASP Akonde, a police convoy of three vehicles was returning from the wedding of a colleague at Mankessim in the Mfantseman Municipality of the Central Region to Accra when the accident occurred.
The Police Vehicle on which the two officers were travelling on collided head-on with a Toyota Camry vehicle coming from the opposite direction of the road, he said.
The Winneba MTTD Commander said five Police Officers, who were in critical condition, have been referred to the Police Hospital in Accra for further treatment.
According to ASP Akonde six other Officers, who sustained minor injuries were treated and discharged at the hospital on Saturday.
He said three officers, a female and two males are on admission at the Hospital responding to treatment.
The driver of the Toyota Camry is also on admission at the Winneba Trauma and Specialized Hospital and he is said to be responding to treatment.
The bodies of the two Police officers have been deposited at the Winneba Municipal Hospital Morgue awaiting autopsy.
- See more at: http://www.myjoyonline.com/news/2015/August-31st/two-police-officers-killed-15-injured-in-road-crash.php#sthash.GRlu6o8O.dpuf

IMF reviews Ghana’s performance for possible release of $114 million - See more at: http://www.myjoyonline.com/business/2015/August-31st/imf-reviews-ghanas-performance-for-possible-release-of-114-million.php#sthash.TsegcaEk.dpuf

Source: Ghana | Joy Business
Date: 31-08-2015 Time: 06:08:48:am
Finance Minister Seth Terkper
The IMF Board is expected begin meeting Monday to find out how Ghana has fared under the three-year bailout programme.
The review - the second since the deal was struck - is seen as crucial because if Ghana secures the board’s approval, it will pave the way for the release of some 114 million dollars from the Fund to support the country’s import bill.
The funds will also help prop up Ghana’s reserves to help stabilize the depreciating Ghana cedi.
Government will be hoping secure the IMF’s approval as that would also convince donors and investors that it is committed to implementing targets set out under the  programme.
Ghana secured a pass mark from the Fund when the board carried out its first review in June.
However some economists fear that the recent depreciation of the cedi will work against a favourable mark from the IMF, but Deputy Finance Minister Mona Quartey says the cedi fall will not affect Ghana’s performance rating.
“I am confident that we will continue to get pass marks as we go along because the fiscal consolidation process is going very well”, she said.
If the IMF Board finds Ghana’s performance favourable, the 144 million dollars could hit Bank of Ghana’s account in the second week of September.
The IMF programme was seen as the trigger that will help turn around the economy and address the uncertainty issues facing it.
However, few months after the programme the economy is still facing numerous challenges, notable among them being a tumbling cedi.
The IMF program was secured in April this year for the release of 918 million dollars spread over three years to stabilize Ghana’s economy.
- See more at: http://www.myjoyonline.com/business/2015/August-31st/imf-reviews-ghanas-performance-for-possible-release-of-114-million.php#sthash.TsegcaEk.dpuf

Sunday 30 August 2015

DO YOU WANT TO KNOW: Two Indian Sisters Ordered to Be Raped by Village Council Beg Supreme Court for Help




They are being punished by the unelected council because their brother eloped with a married woman from a higher caste

A petition to save two sisters in India from being raped and publicly humiliated for their brother’s actions, a punishment handed down by an unofficial village council, has gathered considerable support for its demand that authorities intervene and stop the “disgusting ruling” from being enforced.
The petition by human-rights organization Amnesty International has garnered over 16,000 signatures thus far, and calls for law enforcement to stop the council-sanctioned rape of 23-year-old Meenakshi Kumari and her 15-year-old sister in Baghpat village in the northern Indian state of Uttar Pradesh.
The unelected council of elders ordered that Kumari and her sister — both members of the low Dalit caste — be raped and paraded naked with blackened faces, after their brother eloped with a married woman of a higher caste. He and the woman, who belongs to the dominant Jat caste, were in love and eloped after she was forced to marry someone from her own caste, according to reports.
Kumari also approached India’s Supreme Court herself last week, saying that police have been harassing her and her family instead of protecting them.
In a plea to the court Kumari said she and her family “cannot return back to her village and have been rendered homeless.”
The court has asked for a response from the Uttar Pradesh government.
“Nothing could justify this abhorrent punishment,” the Amnesty petition reads. “It’s not fair. It’s not right. And it’s against the law. Demand that the local authorities intervene immediately.”
Village councils in northern India, known as khap panchayats, are generally comprised of senior male members of the community’s high castes. Although the councils have been declared illegal by the courts, their edicts are still observed in many parts of rural India.

Migrant crisis: Syrian children disappear from Austrian hospital

hospital

  • 8 hours ago
  • From the section Europe
Media caption The BBC's Bethany Bell looks inside the van found with 26 migrants on board
Police in Austria say three Syrian children and their families who were rescued from a minivan containing 26 migrants have disappeared from the hospital where they were being treated.
The children were taken to hospital in the town of Braunau am Inn on Friday suffering from severe dehydration.
Their discovery came a day after police found 71 bodies, thought to be people fleeing Syria, in a lorry in Austria.
Meanwhile the EU has announced urgent talks on the escalating migrant crisis.
Luxembourg, which holds the rotating EU presidency, said interior ministers would hold an extraordinary meeting on 14 September, saying the situation had "taken unprecedented proportions".
A record number of 107,500 migrants reached the EU's borders last month. At least 2,500 have died since January, most of them drowning in the Mediterranean. Some of them pay large sums of money to people smugglers.

Crammed in a van

Austrian police said they stopped the minivan in Braunau, which sits on the country's border with Germany, on Friday and arrested its Romanian driver.
The children - two girls and a boy aged between one and five years old - were said to have been crammed in the back along with other migrants from Syria, Afghanistan and Bangladesh.
A van that was carrying 26 migrants through Austria - 30 August 2015
Police said they were critically ill and almost unconscious when they were found.
The BBC's Bethany Bell in Braunau says they and their families disappeared from the hospital at some point on Saturday.
Authorities believe they may have tried to cross the border into Germany, rather than face deportation back to Hungary.
Separately on Sunday, Hungarian police said they had arrested a fifth man over the deaths of the 71 people who were found in the abandoned lorry in Austria last Thursday.
The man is the fourth Bulgarian to be held over the find near the Hungarian border. The other man is Afghan. Authorities believe the men are low-level members of a human trafficking gang.
Officials said the 59 men, eight women and four children had probably died of suffocation two days earlier.

What we know about Austria lorry find
'Migrants', 'refugees' or 'aliens'?
The Turkish city where migrants buy supplies
Migrants' perilous route to Germany

Police prepare to load a group of Afghan migrants into a van after they were found walking along a main road - 30 August 2015
Next month's emergency meeting was announced after Germany, France and the UK called for "concrete steps" to resolve the issue.
They want migrants to be fingerprinted and registered when they arrive in Italy or Greece. They also said the EU should establish a list of "safe countries of origin" that would allow immediate repatriation of some migrants.
The call came after French Foreign Minister Laurent Fabius criticised Eastern European countries for refusing to take in refugees.
"When I see a certain number of European countries, particularly in the east, who do not accept quotas [of migrants], I find it scandalous," he told French radio station Europe 1 (in French).
He pointed specifically to Hungary's 175km (108 mile) razor-wire barrier along its border with Serbia, saying it "did not respect Europe's common values".
Hungary says it plans to replace the temporary barrier, which was completed on Saturday, with a 4m-high (13ft) fence to "provide a defence against illegal border-crossers".
So far this month more than 40,000 asylum seekers, the majority of them Syrian, have arrived in Hungary via the Balkans.
On Sunday, Pope Francis led prayers in St Peter's Square for migrants who die "on their terrible journeys" and urged co-operation "to impede these crimes, which offend the entire human family".